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California Controversy April 30, 2009

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Miss California has caused quite a stir since making her opinion clear on same sex marriage. 

 

I can’t fault her for her opinion, despite the fact that I whole-heartedly disagree.  That’s the beauty of this country: your freedom of speech is protected.  I do wonder, though, how exposed she has been to the gay community.  She attends a Christian college, was welcomed with open arms at her church, which praised her for “refusing to compromise her faith”, and is surrounded by members of her family who have, based on her answer, molded her opinion on same sex marriage.  Has she ever worked with, attended school with, or even just talked to a gay man or woman?  Isolation breeds ignorance, which then breeds fear and prejudice.  I’m not saying she can’t hold her opinion; I just wonder if she’s ever considered the other side of the coin before forming it.

 

And while we’re on the subject of gay marriage, can everyone just stop using the “sanctity” excuse?  We live in a country where you can have a drive-thru wedding in a town that practically screams cheating, gambling and prostitution.  The U.S. divorce rate is 50%.  And people want to protect the sanctity of marriage?  Spare me.

 

I Was Just Trying to Mind My Own Business… April 27, 2009

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Having just returned from a lovely two week vacation, I am relaxed and rejuvenated.  Oh, and reminded of how the simple act of flying can turn into an “is this really happening?” moment.

 

For an international flight, my travel was actually fairly easy; however, it was not without its bumps in the road.  There are simple flight rules by which one should abide.  You would think that anyone with an ounce of common sense (or someone who has at least flown once in their life) would get it.  Unfortunately, there are people out there with no concept of social rules, and being stuck in an uncomfortable, confined space such as an airplane will bring out the idiot in anyone.

 

Let’s take the guy who sat next to me on the last leg of my trip.  I’d been traveling for 20 hours, and all I wanted to do was eat, shower and sleep.  I did not want to hear a stranger apologize to his girlfriend for a sketchy email, his dominance fantasies and Craigslist postings.

 

Yeah, that’s right.  There is actually someone out there who has so little shame that he broadcast the entire saga that is his love (or should I say kinky sex) life to his fellow passengers.  The conversation went a little like this:

 

“Hey baby, I just wanted to let you know there is nothing going on between me and Sebastian.  She’s interested in me, and I’m attracted to her, but I told her that nothing would happen because I’m with you.”

(Silence as he listens to her response.)

“Yes, Sebastian is a woman.  I don’t have any homosexual tendencies.  She’s a woman in her forties, and I didn’t do anything with her.”

(Another response on the other end.)

“Yes, I admit in the past I’ve had dominance fantasies.  But I’ve never acted on any of them.  And I don’t regret not acting on them.  You are more important than that to me.”

(Response)

“It’s fine that you saw the email.  But it was just something flirty that she sent to me, and it doesn’t mean anything.  I really don’t want this to mess up anything with us.”

(Response)

“Yes, I’ve posted my dominance fantasies on Craigslist, but it doesn’t mean anything.  I’ve never acted on them.”

 

So the conversation went.  I was so uncomfortable that I eventually tried to tune it out by listening to the nice, innocent conversation in front of me regarding the cute little 3-year-old who was ready for a nap.

 

News flash:  I don’t care what you do behind closed doors.  And knowing him, they’re probably not closed, and neither are the blinds.  I do care that you’re sharing it with me, a captive audience who has nowhere to go and must sit next to you for the remainder of the flight.  Save your dominance-sketchy-email-jealous-girlfriend-themed conversation for the privacy of your own home or hotel room.  Spare the public a glimpse into your world.

 

 

Freckles the Guru April 9, 2009

Filed under: pets — melmont @ 11:16 pm
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Freckles 

See that crazy beast?  Yep, that’s my pup.  Adopted about a year and a half ago from the Humane Society of Western Montana, Freckles has become a part of my life I couldn’t live without. 

 

This picture was taken a few weeks ago on one of our favorite hikes. 

 

Today, a much warmer, snow-free, almost spring-like day, I came home from work, thinking about all the items waiting for me on my to-do list, took one look at Freckles’s face and strapped him to a leash, not because I was looking forward to a leisurely walk, but because I couldn’t resist the hopeful look in his eyes.  It was out of guilt that I leashed him and drove him down to the river.

 

Of course, it only took 10 minutes before all thoughts of my to-do list, dinner plans and friend-related drama disappeared.  Freckles found a path down to the water, jumped in immediately, and began splashing around like he’s never seen a river before.  My quick trip to the river turned in to an hour-long stroll through brush, sand and melting snow (resistant little suckers, those drifts…). 

 

People who don’t own dogs will never understand what they can teach you.  The first time I walked into Freckles’s kennel at the shelter, he tried to make himself melt into the floor.  If he could have dug out and run away, he would have been long gone.  I suspect that he was abused, though it was never confirmed.  I sat on the floor of his little cell until he got up and sniffed my hand.  As I walked with him along the path behind the shelter, I knew he would be coming home with me.  I’d taken a volunteer position to temper my need to own a dog; instead, it was God’s way of helping me find my perfect match.

 

Freckles was considered a “hard adoption”.  He had been in 2 different shelters and 3 different foster homes in his first year.  I took him home as the fourth foster parent a month before his first birthday.  On the day he turned one, I adopted him.  He refused to go under bridges; he was terrified of men, having accidents on the floor every time my boyfriend would walk in the room without me; and he didn’t like to be petted.  He much preferred to sit across the room and examine you skeptically.

 

 A little over a year later, and this happy, splashing dog in the river is hard to compare to that sad, scared animal who hid in my closet the first day I brought him home.  He meets me at the door everyday, wagging his tail.  His favorite activities include hiking, being brushed, chasing his squeaky football and going on playdates.  Freckles has learned to trust, love, nurture and beg for every piece of food he can.  Regardless of what happened to him in the first year of his life, he has moved so far past it that as he walks down this river path with me, the only thing on his mind is the sunshine, the river and the golf balls he could snag from the course next to us if I would just let him off leash. 

 

It might sound cliche or even a little cheesy, but I wish I could be that carefree.  Instead of worrying about things I can’t change with work, family, friends, enemies; I wish I could just brush it off and stroll alongside the river in the sunshine.  At least for today, I can.

 

Blog Redesign April 7, 2009

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It’s been a long time since I last posted something here.  After that fact came up in conversation the other day, I thought it best to confirm that this blog is not dead.  I haven’t abandoned it; I just haven’t been motivated.  I could blame it on the blah weather we’ve had lately (except for this weekend, which I’m hoping isn’t a cruel joke!) or my crazy schedule as of late.  But the truth is, I haven’t really been interested in any recent marketing topic lately.  In reviewing some of my previous posts, I’ve found that even with the best of intentions, my posts have started to slide into my personal life.  I really wanted to focus this blog on the field of marketing and pr, given my position in the professional world.  However, I find my personal life much more interesting.   I’m not bragging, but it’s full of great stories.  And since my entire family is 2000 miles away, this will give them something besides a phone call to keep up.


I don’t plan to abandon the marketing world for good.  I just want this blog to live up to its title and become a random collection of stories that reflect me and who I am as a person.  I do also stay involved in the marketing and pr side of things through my tweets (@uncgrl84) and by posting comments on several trade publications.  On a related note, check out my take on the downfall of marketing in the current economic situation and my plan B.


I’m hopeful that this change of course will keep me more involved, more focused and more interesting.  Let me know what you think!